Community Agreements

Creating spaces where people feel comfortable being candid and curious can be incredibly powerful. It is important to recognise that this comfort often comes from the trust built within the group over time, co-learning, and mutually agreed-upon community agreements.

By participating in the Queer n’ Cosy Club communal spaces, from our WhatsApp groups to social media to our live events to online programs, you agree to uphold these commitments to yourself and our community.

As we practice reciprocity, we hold ourselves accountable to the same we expect of you, therefore you can also find our commitments to you listed below.

These agreements aim to adapt to and reflect the collective’s needs and may evolve or change overtime.

Your Commitments to Self and Community:

  • 1) Take Responsibility For Your Well-Being.

    We are not doctors, therapists, or health care providers. You agree to (1) participate in our community only if you feel capable and resourced to explore these practices and discussions in a group setting, (2) seek out a licensed provider, such as a doctor or therapist, if you are experiencing physical or mental health concerns, and (3) not use any of the information we share to diagnose, treat, or delay treatment.

    If you are in a crisis or seeking support, please see our directory of Crisis Helplines, LGBTQIA+ Support Resources and Organisations.

  • 2) Observe Confidentiality.

    What is shared in the group—whether verbally or in writing—stays in the group. To help everyone feel safer to voice their stories and questions, you agree to not share participants’ names, identifying details, and private information outside of the group. You also agree to practice personal data safety by staying up to date with data privacy settings on online social platforms and refrain from sharing private or explicit personal details in our online groups that could put yourself at risk.

  • 3) Practice Collective Care.

    Every member of our community is a whole, sovereign, and capable human who knows themself best. You agree to honour this by refraining from unsolicited advice-giving, most importantly medical advice. You also agree to practice recognising your own and others’ privilege in these spaces (without assuming the identity of others) and active listening -listening to understand rather than to inform your response.

  • 4) Respect Our Differences.

    Our community is made up of many identities. This diversity is as vital to our well-being as biodiversity is to our planet’s. We ask that you be mindful of your language and assumptions around the identities of fellow participants. If conflict arises, we ask that you be open to hard conversations and take steps to repair harm when needed.

    As a LGBTQIA+ social group committed to rest, justice and equity for people of all abilities and backgrounds, we will not tolerate hate speech of any kind. We reserve the right to remove anyone from the community and offerings for any behaviour we deem to be unsafe, harmful, or disruptive to other participants.

  • 5) Honour The Offering.


    We are an informal social group of LGBTQIA+ individuals who are seeking rest, have a shared interest in restorative practices and events, slowly building connections and sharing resources to support collective rest. You agree that any contributions to these spaces should have the wellbeing of the collective in mind. When sharing in the group:

    • Stay on topic and support each other in reorienting conversations if they get derailed.

    • Speak your truth; ground in your own experience with I statements.

    • Ask questions in the language you have. Remember, No one knows everything, we all know something and together we know a lot.

    • Make space, take space - If you are a talker, allow space for others to speak. If you are quiet, speak up.

    • Be conscious of intent vs. impact. No matter the intention, you are responsible for your impact.

Our Commitments to You:

  • 1) Support Safer Spaces.


    We can’t guarantee a space free of conflict or harm. We can, however, promise to do our best to prevent harm and to address it when it occurs. And since we’re in this as a community, we invite your collaboration to build a resilient, inclusive space where we can grow together.

  • 2) Affirm Your Bodily Autonomy.

    We aspire to give you ample opportunities to do what feels right in your body. You get to decide whether or not you share in a group, participate in a practice or exercise, or close your eyes during a meditation. So long as you are not disrupting the experience of others, you are welcome to engage in our community in a way that feels safe and supportive to you.

  • 3) Make Way For Diverse Voices.

    The challenges accessing rest and inequities we address don’t affect all LGBTQIA+ folk equally. As a small community led by a biracial, bisexual, cisgender, neurodivergent, currently non-disabled woman founder, we’re mindful of the importance of going beyond sharing facts to actually making space for the stories of LGBTQIA+ folks who represent identities that have been most harmed by systemic oppression. From our content to our collaborators to how we facilitate conversations, it’s our intention to constantly seek opportunities to ensure what we build represents and supports our whole community.

  • 4) Prioritise Accessibility.

    We are working towards making it possible for people of all abilities to be full, active participants in our spaces. We aim to be explicit in all accessibility descriptions and available support for our offerings. If you notice an aspect of our programming content or delivery that has not met accessibility expectations or has been inadequately described, please contact us at queerncosyclub@gmail.com. We will do our best to implement changes and/or provide feedback to the facilitators, technology platforms or venues we use.

  • 5) Name Our Teachers.

    We seek to generously cite our teachers, sources, and the lineages that inform our practices and content. We believe this transparency honours the contributions of those who have enabled us to build upon their knowledge and supports your continued learning. Beyond citations, we actively seek out partnerships with nonprofits, businesses, and teachers who carry these bodies of knowledge and/or represent their communities of origin.

In this together.

We hope you’ll agree that the joy, connection, and power that comes from being in community makes the complexity of it all worth it. After all, we can’t shift cultural norms, build a better restful future, and take these radical steps towards liberation alone.

If you have questions, or have experienced or observed anything counter to these agreements from our team or community members, please email queerncosyclub@gmail.com with “Community Agreements” in the subject line. We take your feedback seriously and will respond as soon as possible.

If you are a teacher, facilitator or organisation that would like to partner with us in making good on our commitments–or you know one we should collaborate with–we’d love to hear from you, too! We actively welcome partnership with rest advocates, restorative movement practitioners, cosy hobbyists and LGBTQIA+ organisers and venues. Send a note to us at queerncosyclub@gmail.com or use the contact form below.